“I wish things were different so we could celebrate with her,” wrote ‘Teenager Mother’ big name, who positioned Carly up for adoption when she and Tyler Baltierra had been simply 16.
Even though Catelynn Lowell is not able to proclaim along with her daughter, Carly, on her birthday, she’s nonetheless marking her firstborn’s particular age.
On Saturday, the Teenager Mother big name — who welcomed Carly along with her husband Tyler Baltierra once they had been simply 16, and positioned her into adoption — shared a candy birthday tribute to Carly on Instagram.
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“Today is Carly’s 15th birthday! I wonder what kind of day she’ll have and what she’ll do. I wish things were different so we could celebrate with her,” Catelynn, 32, captioned a black-and-white picture of herself and Tyler, 32, posing with Carly and their alternative youngsters: Novalee, 9, Vaeda, 5, and Rya, 2.
“I hope she feels our love and has a great day! I look forward to knowing that one day we will be lucky enough to celebrate with her and B&T I can’t wait for that day!” she added. “@tylerbaltierramtv we are soooo blessed to have our girls!!”
Catelynn’s put up comes amid obvious drama between her, Tyler, and Carly’s adoptive folks, Brandon and Teresa Davis. Catelynn and Tyler made the verdict to park Carly into adoption once they had been simply 16, again in 2009 — and feature had an up-and-down dating with the Davises since.
Previous this occasion, Catelynn took to her Instagram Tales to specific her frustration later she and Tyler had been allegedly denied the chance to talk over with their daughter.
“Adoption is wild … Being at the mercy of someone that can say no…” she wrote, in line with PEOPLE. “I know I chose this, there’s no need to tell me! I will just never understand how you say that you ‘love’ us and will always be ‘blessed’ for us … BUT you can’t take TWO days out of your entire year to just meet up for dinner and do a park or something small? Especially when we said we would travel to YALL?!”
“I know for me … people I LOVE and are blessed to have, I MAKE time for!” she added. “So now we most likely won’t see her until she’s 16 … And who knows if that will even happen …”
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The upcoming age, Tyler got here to his spouse’s protection later Catelynn gained backlash over her damaging feedback about Brandon and Teresa, sharing a long put up on social media.
“I debated on whether or not I would address the post my wife made about not getting a visit with Carly. However after seeing the comments, opinions, & ‘theories’ about why this decision has been made, I felt compelled to address it,” he started.
“Carly is almost 15 years old. Throughout those 15 years, her parents have chosen not to have our (mutually agreed upon) annual visit, MULTIPLE times!” he persevered. “This is nothing new or foreign to our story & there’s nothing we have done in our personal lives that has influenced this decision. Now is it always disappointing & hurtful when it happens? Yes of course. Is it sad? Yeah. But at the the end of the day, Brandon & Teresa are HER PARENTS! They are the only ones who have the authority to make these decisions.”
“We can waste our time asking questions, dissecting responses, & begging for an answer…but we are NOT entitled to it (regardless of how much we may believe/wish otherwise). All we can do is accept the decision without the requirement of an answer,” Tyler added. “We have to just trust that their decision is for the best interest of Carly. Because that is the honor, privilege, & gift we chose to give them when we decided that they would raise her & be her parents.”
The 16 & Pregnant alum went on to notice that this “choice does not come without a human cost,” sooner than opening up in regards to the “pain” of give up your kid to any individual else.
“Most will never know the pain of what it takes to fight against the most powerful, biological & instinctual nature that’s required to make that choice,” Tyler wrote. “Most will never know what it’s like to grow, nurture, love & carry such a beautiful perfect innocence like your own baby…only to painfully relinquish that natural bond to another to do what you know you can’t for the sake of your baby. It’s a pain that’s equal to death & I don’t wish it upon my worst enemy. At least with death, there’s a tragic finality to it…tragic yes, but it’s final. There’s no guessing, there’s no false hope, & there’s nothing you can do to bring them back or change it. But grieving your child while they still live is truly an unexplainable pain in so many ways, I won’t even attempt to put it into words.”
“So with that pain, inevitably comes emotional reactions & expressions. My wife fights this pain every day,” he persevered. “Some days are a victory & some days are not. But her expressing that pain on those particular days when she is vulnerable, sad & at a loss, should not be used as an attack against her character. Or maybe I’m just bias, since she’s my wife who I love more than anything, but I have held her while this excruciating pain overtakes everything.”
Tyler concluded his put up via asking fans to “be kind, “tender” and “compassionate” towards Catelynn.
“I know the assumptions, criticism & judgments are all part of the territory when it comes to living your life in the ‘spotlight’ but we’re still human beings at the end of the day,” he stated. “This whole thing is hard for everyone involved. We’re only human after all & I believe we all could use some more grace & understanding towards one another!”
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Latter summer season, Catelynn and Tyler shared an emotional reunion with their daughter, which marked their first talk over with in over two years. Catelynn posted a black-and-white population picture from the reunion on Instagram on the generation.
“Had an amazing visit with our girl ❤️ she’s funny, kind, SMART, goofy and STUNNING 😍,” Catelynn captioned the picture. “Adoption is hard and saying goodbye time and time again is soooo hard!!!!” she persevered. “But seeing all of our girls together, getting to know Carly deeper and deeper each time and being with all four of our daughters is truly such a blessing!!!!”
She additionally added the hashtags #adoption #loveyou and #mygirls.
In an interview with TooFab in September, Catelynn and Tyler spread out about what it used to be love to reunite with Carly, sharing that they had been delighted with the way it went ocular all in their daughters in combination.
“It’s the best. It’s the best feeling in the world,” stated Catelynn. “Getting to witness all of them together, hanging out and playing, and talking, for me it’s just a joy to see all four of my girls together, honestly.”
“For me, I explain it as feeling really magical. It feels out of this world. It feels everlasting,” gushed Tyler. “If I could just stop this moment for the rest of my life I would be totally content forever.”
“Watching all of them together brings up this joy that’s unexplainable” he persevered. “That I wasn’t really expecting considering, just where she lives and that we’re not raising her. But when they get together it’s like, wow!”
“It’s like there’s been no time apart,” added Catelynn.
“It’s beautiful, and Carly is such a good, awesome older sister. Nurturing, loves all the girls, and gives them all this attention, and seeing them together is magical. I can’t explain it any other way.”
